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do you notice that in reality we tend to do more violent manners to other people we know or we dont know
either we tend to do it or not, we act violently in words or in our own action or gesture..

recently, i had some conversation with my friends, whether its man or woman , they always have this troubled communications with their partner.

lets say .. Abdul (Not a real name) always got bullied by his wife, because Abdul is not a rich guy, his wife always compare him with other man.. his wife said ” your Friend got this, why you dont? ” , she have this narrow mind also. she might look soft on the outside but sometimes violent inside
the problems continued even in the telephone conversation, his wife always got this negative thinking about Abdul got another lover,

in fact, Abdul is a loyal guy and he is religious also, and he said, even that his religion permit a marriage with more than 1 woman, he dont agree with it
“one woman enough to make your life in misery” he once told me

one day, i asked him, why he let his wife do something like this to him
“hen” he said to me , if you love someone, you have to like his / her just the way it is.. so thats make my relationship longer.

however, he said. being silent and accepting the violent thing does not mean you are lame or easily abused
sometime, i do tell my wife in a decent and soft manner that by doing such things doesnt make you feel happy, someday, other person will do the same thing to you.

the wifey, sadly, dont appriciate her good husband and continue to do the same way..
and i dont know how long this violent manners will continue..and i dont know whether Abdul can take this anymore and decide to leave her.

in other way, Kasim (not the real name) whose relationship are more colourful to me, he always jokes, talk everything in free with his wife.
even he talks anythings to his wife, and the receptions are quite wonderful.. she dont mind at all..
its nice to see the relationship and communication that working like that..

violence , in a word or action often happens to the person that have this sick and narrow mind. maybe its in the genetical way of the family or maybe he or she have a traumatical problems with the past.

i also have friends that got bullied with their parents, that makes them a negative persons, a person that tend to look the dark side of life.
sadly, the one that hurt us the most, is the one close to us.. its a fact, isnt it?

we often look a different ways to others, there’s one articles my friend from USA send to me, if there’s 15 years old girl hug her 1 year son, our mind is like thinking negative to her, that she is a (sorry) Whore or she is wild… does anyone know that she had her son because she had been raped by her uncle or even her friends?
and our judgement makes things worse than usual..

from TV, newspaper Gossips, News, everywhere.. even in our house, violence happens.
its really comes from the mind, sick mind, narrow mind, negative mind, angry mind..
but at the end… is that really matters? is that neccesary?
the answer is yours to make

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